Is it time for you to begin writing your wedding invitations? These are a necessary part of every wedding, but when it comes down to writing and ordering them, it is easy for brides to feel overwhelmed. What do you include? What don't you include? How much do you need to stick with the tried and true and how much fun can you have with the format? Well, stress no more! Here is my quick list of dos and don'ts for your wedding invitations, all in one place, just to make it easier for you!
When sending your wedding INVITATIONS Do:
...include the important information. The hosts' names, the couple's names, the event date, time and location are all vital pieces of information to include.
...consider whether or not you need to include the street address of your location. It is not required, but if the location is newer, lesser known, or hard to find via Google, then it is recommended that you include it.
...give credit to the host(s). Who is paying for the event? Her family? His family? The couple? Choose wording that reflects this.
...be consistent with either your British or American spelling. Are you using "honour" or "honor"? It doesn't matter which one you use, but be consistent. So if you choose to use "honour" then also pay attention to words like "favour."
...be mindful of the colors you're using. Make sure that they are consistent with the colors you're using for the rest of your event.
...place postage on your RSVPs. I understand that this adds to your overall wedding budget, but stamping the invitations goes a long way in setting the tone for your event and making your guests feel as if you want their presence.
...pay attention to the titles of your guests. Not all of your guests are "Mr. + Mrs." Some are "Dr. + Mrs." or "The Doctors ____" Taking the time to make sure you have your guests titles correct will go a long way in making them feel special.
...give your guests the option for an online RSVP if you think you will get more RSVPs that way. If you don't think many of your friends will remember to send in their wedding RSVPs, then you may want to include an email on the RSVP card for them to use. You can also often set this up via your wedding website.
...be consistent with your "plus ones." Though the rule can easily get blurred regarding who you should give a plus one to and who you don't need to, the best rule is to be consistent. Whether you draw the line at dating, or allow everyone over 18 to bring a plus one, be consistent so that when you're questioned you have a rule to fall back on and you don't hurt feelings by doing a "case-by-case" analysis.
...check spelling. If nothing else, make sure your spelling is correct!
when sending your wedding invitations Don't:
...feel restricted to a certain format. There are many different wording variations that you can choose from, or you can construct your own. Consider the type of event you are desiring and build your invitation to fit that. The most important factor is ensuring that all the important information is conveyed to your guests. A good general rule is to give each piece of important information its own line (hosts names, date, time, location, etc.)
...go for a casual style invitation if you're having a formal event. Your invitation sets the tone for your event. Though, as I mentioned above, you have room to play around with the style, you should also be sure that your invitation is setting your guests expectations for your wedding day.
...include your registries. That's what your wedding website is for! You can also ask your close friends and family to help you spread around where you're registered, and of course you can tell people if they ask. Even if you don't want guests to bring gifts at all, I'm afraid it's still considered rude to include that on your invitation. (Do include information about your wedding website in your invitations, though - the RSVP card is great for this - so that they have access to the information.)
...use printed labels to address your invitations. Getting the addresses beautifully printed onto the envelopes (there are services which offer this) is one thing, but printed labels can make guests feel like you're approaching your wedding with a less than detailed eye. Plus, labels don't always handle the post well, especially if they get moist, so to ensure your guests get their invitations just go with handwriting. Don't like your handwriting but can't hire a calligrapher? Find some friends who may be willing to do it!
...list your wedding and reception as "adult only." Instead, be very specific about who is invited to your wedding by listing each person on the outer (and inner) envelope.
...don't include a false start time. Guests know better than to be late to weddings and often arrive around 30 minutes early. If your ceremony is scheduled to start at 7, then please list that time on your invitations. I know you don't want anyone to miss out, but if you list 6:30 on your invitations, some guests will be waiting around for an hour for the ceremony to start. If 7 o'clock rolls around and guests are still filing in the doors, your coordinator will wait to start the ceremony until they have found a seat.
...send an invitation to someone who declined after your save the date. If someone has already informed you that they won't be able to make it to your wedding, then don't send them an invitation. It comes across as if you're begging for gifts. Just use the opportunity to invite someone else who you would like to be there!
Can you think of anything you wish more people would include on their invitations?